It's Chit Chat and All That! time once again with Benjamin Russell and Casey-Lyne Johnson

Today on Chit Chat and All That! we have a scintillating couple of writers with us, the  extremely cute and not so innocent Casey-Lyne Johnson and the man who leads her astray during their chat, the buffed and oh so bed-able Benjamin Russell.

Casey and Benjamin are discussing ways you can broach new ideas with your partner, to spice up your activities in the bedroom and watching porn - the pros and cons of it.

So please put your reading glasses on if you need them, grab that cup of coffee or tea and in the case of evening readers, that glass of wine or a beer and get ready to have an extremely enjoyable and interesting read. 

Casey and I kicked around various ways to approach these topics. Eventually we decided to do some research in order to get in the ‘mood’ and put us in the right frame of mind.  Well, since I’m the registered deviant on our team, I suggested we sit down and watch a porn movie together.  Now here is the scene. We’re in my “media room”, lounging in the movie style seats I had installed.  The room is resplendent with movie posters of some of my all time favorite porn stars: Vanessa del Rio, John Holmes, Jenna Jameson and the incomparable Linda Lovelace.  Ever the gracious host, I have provided popcorn and Casey’s favorite Australian Beer (Gawd, I don’t know how she drinks that stuff, but at least she drinks it straight from the bottle)

Benjamin
"Casey, are you sure you can do this?"

Casey
"Ben, to be honest I'm not sure, but I'm willing to give it a try. So, what movie did you pick for our 'research' project?"

Benjamin
"I went for one of the classics and one of my all time personal favorites – “Deep Throat” with Linda Lovelace. The plot is about a woman whose clitoris is in her throat. She can only have a climax when she is deep throating a man's cock and the bigger the cock the better. Ooops, I'm sorry - does the word cock offend you?"

Casey
"No Ben, the word cock doesn't offend me, but I'm curious as to why this movie is considered a classic."

Benjamin
"Casey, you're kidding me right? Hasn't any man every talked to you about how much we men love to receive oral sex? Notice that I didn't say give oral sex."

Casey
"Ben, to be honest no. Good girls and ladies don't talk about sucking cock with their husbands or SO's.

Benjamin
"Huh, why not?"

Casey
"It's just not considered proper talk for good girls and ladies. It's considered crude, and when one is raised with such morals, it's hard to break such habits."

Benjamin
"So a couple can/should be able to talk about anything, except sex. Is that what you're saying? Casey, you must realize how crazy that sounds. Is it ok for women to talk about sex and porn among themselves?"

Casey
"On the contrary, I believe that everyone should be able to discuss sex with their partners. I think society needs to change so that we aren't teaching our children that lack of communication with our partners is bad. There is much that I would love to be able to discuss with my partner, but my raising has rendered me unable to feel comfortable discussing it with him. As for women being able to discuss sex and porn, I believe that it should be ok. Not necessarily directly about our own sex lives as such, but that is where we learn, by talking to others."

Benjamin
"Casey, I get it, but.... Oh my god, look at that. Did you see how she swallowed that guy's whole cock? I'm sorry, I've watched this movie at 'least' a dozen times and I still get excited every time.

Ok, where was I? Oh yeah, I understand what you're saying about society and how we've been raised, but we're adults now. If we don't/can't change as individuals then how will society ever change?  Let me ask you a question, what if your SO came to you and said he wanted you to watch a porn movie with him, what would be your response? Think about it, if it was him here sitting next to you instead of me, what would you be doing? Hmm, I think that’s really two questions, but hopefully you get my point."

Casey
It amazes me at how much some women can take. I don't know how they seem to switch off the gag reflex and take that much in.

As for society, it is up to us as individuals, of course. It will take a while, I think, before society, as a whole, is more accepting of talking about sex. It's private, yes, but it's natural.

And I can tell you that if my significant other was the one here watching this, I don't think there would be much talking going on, if you know what I mean. I wouldn't mind it if he asked for the two of us to watch porn together; who knows what ideas it might give us. It would be an easier way of suggesting something new, rather than talking about it for those who are uncomfortable broaching the subject."

Benjamin

Something just occurred to me and I guess I should have asked this question sooner.  Have you ever watched a porn movie before and more importantly, have you ever watched one with a man?

Casey

To be honest, I would feel weird watching it by myself. It’s been a while, but I have watched porn with my SO. I’m not going to ask if you’ve ever watched porn, since I think that answer is clear; but have you ever watched it with a woman before me?

Benjamin

"Casey, you know how some women close their eyes when the monster is killing people in a scary movie? Well, I noticed that you keep closing your eyes when the guy is squirting the money shot. Why?"

Casey

“I’m not sure exactly. It’s a reflex, I guess, related to an upbringing of what is considered proper morals. Although it’s a natural happening, so I use the term ‘proper’ loosely. It isn’t exactly something to be ashamed of.”

Benjamin

"That damn proper society has got us all screwed up. To be honest society has screwed men up too. We fantasize about the porn stars and we watch a lot of porn, but we're too ashamed to talk to our partners about it.

I think part of the problem is that if we don't share those desires at the beginning of the relationship, it's highly unlikely that we're going to talk about it later.

Ok, so pretend that I am your SO, go ahead and ask me or tell me something about sex and/or porn that you can't tell him."

Casey

"There's nothing proper about shame and discomfort at natural occurrences.
And I definitely agree, if we can't be up front and open at the beginning, it is difficult to talk about desires later on in a relationship. The longer it goes on, the harder it becomes as well.

Something I can tell him?  Well this is interesting. This isn't exactly something I can't tell him, but I often do prefer to take the dominant role but I feel embarrassed about it. I feel uncomfortable being the one in control for fear that it might be unwelcome, though I know it would be extremely appreciated. How about yourself? Is there something that you feel you can't say or do with your SO?"

Benjamin

"Can you hold that thought for a few minutes? This is my favorite part of the movie. Well, that's not entirely true - I love the whole damn movie, but this part is really good. Yeah I know the plot and acting "sucks", figuratively and literally, but men have wet-dreams about a woman who actually loves to give head. Hell, Prince even wrote a song about it - Head.

Now that I'm thinking about it, I guess that is what I'd want to ask my SO, why doesn't she "like" to give head? She sure as hell doesn't mind receiving it, but I have to beg for a half-ass blow-job."

Casey

"Well I suppose that is one thing that I find quite true from the movie Forgetting Sarah Marshall. The religious man on his honeymoon says that 'If God were a city planner, he wouldn't put a playground next to the sewage system.' However, more than that, I think it's just such an odd feeling to have something long and thick on one's mouth. Not to mention the gag reflex. It is an odd feeling and if a guy gets carried away while receiving oral sex, it can be a cause to freak out. It's harder for a guy to choke during oral than it is for a woman.  That is my thought on it, anyway."

Benjamin

Hey Casey, cover your eyes, here comes another money shot. 

Ok, so I think we’re in agreement that men and women should talk about what they really want in the bedroom, but thanks to “society”, it’s just not something, either men or women are comfortable doing.  In addition, bedroom preferences are even harder to talk about if things like watching porn and oral sex were not discussed at the beginning of the relationship.  So I propose that a great way to break the ice, when you can’t find the right words or the nerve to tell your SO what you want in the bedroom, is to watch a porn movie together.  Find a porn movie that covers the topic you want to discuss and then watch it with your SO.  In fact, I’m going to having another private screening of “Deep Throat” with my SO later tonight. 

Casey

Society sure has a lot to answer for, I think. But the only way society will change is if we, as individuals, start the change. Porn movies offer a fantastic chance for those too shy to show their SO’s just what they are thinking, in reference to the bedroom at least. They are a good way to build up confidence for couples. So in saying that, I might go work on my own confidence for communication. I’m glad we had this discussion, Benjamin.

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Next week on Chit Chat and All That! we will be having with us the talents of two very witty and naughty ladies, Elizabeth Black and Sherry Tooker, who will be discussing the never ending argument of which is better, Indie Publishing,  Self Publishing and Traditional Publishing. A definite must read to see their take on the pros and cons of the three.

So until next week, we here at the Naughty Nights Press (NNP) team wish you a week full of wicked and wantonly delicious thoughts and deeds.