Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Writer's Block Is A Bitch

I am going through my first serious case of writer's block, and it's harshing my cool. I haven't been able to write so much as a grocery list for going on a month now. The Christmas season is no help, since I already don't feel like doing anything other than watching Christmas movies ("Die Hard", anyone?), baking Christmas cookies, listening to Christmas carols, and staring at the tree.

I've been told lots of writers have seen their sales bottom out over the past few months, and I'm one of them. Knowing I'm not alone doesn't help. I feel pretty hopeless right now, and I hope that passes soon. So, in the meantime, I can't write. At all. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. And I have pressure to finish some stories I have absolutely no interest in writing.

What do you do to help you deal with writer's block? I really want to know because I'm suffering like hell right now. The only thing I can do at the moment is anything else. I won't even try to write. No point in it, since nothing is inspiring me.

Time to bake more Christmas cookies. I've made Russian tea cakes, sugar cookies, pfeffernusse, and next on the list are Italian pizzelles. That's what I do when I'm frustrated now - bake cookies and clean house. *Sigh* At least I'm able to enjoy the Christmas season, despite very aggravating ice and snow on the ground. Getting out of my parking spot and making through the parking lot in one piece take some monumental effort.

Enjoy Christmas everyone, and Happy New Year. Maybe things will turn around for me and everyone else in 2014. I sure hope so.

Friday, December 13, 2013

3 2 1 Happy Christmas!

I really struggled this time with knowing what to post. I wanted to do something fun, so in the end came up with this little quiz. I hope you will read it and maybe try one yourself. It's challenging but fun.

Take Three Christmas songs
Two paragraphs
and make One story

Spot my songs.

 Everyone in our town always seems to be in a rush around Christmastime. Hustle bustle in the shops and money everywhere seems to jangle jingle. Bells ring in churches and people smile a lot. There is usually lots of snow and children playing having snowball fights.

However the weather can get very cold and frosty. The snowman on the lawn even looks cold. Many people however look forward to later when darkness falls and things are silent. Night is a blessed peaceful time during the hurly burly of Christmas.

Happy Christmas. Naomi xx

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Christmas Delights

With Christmas edging ever nearer I thought it might be a good time to mention my Christmas anthology 'Christmas Delights'.
Christmas can be quite stressful if we don't take the time to switch off for a while and relax. Grab those new chocolates, pour yourself a drink of something warming and disappear into a world of erotic fantasy!

So what would you like Santa to leave you under the tree this year? I am always happy with something to read, something to eat and a little something extra special to wear (silk normally suffices!) I love lingerie and have way too much of it crammed into drawers, the silkier, lacier or racier the better!
Not everyone is happy to receive such personal gifts from their lover. In my anthology story ‘Christmas Lingerie Danielle is embarrassed to wear her present from Michael. But something is different about this underwear. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to wear lingerie that really made you feel beautiful? Here is a short excerpt from this story which can be found in my anthology ‘Christmas Delights’:

“Take the box out Danielle, take a look at it,” said Michael.
“Oh Michael, why?” Danielle turned her head to look for a moment into his warm brown eyes.
“Because this underwear is special,” he told her.
Danielle sighed and reached for the box. Another buxom blonde with double D breasts smiled out, her nipples peeping seductively and unnervingly long from the triangular slits in the bra.
“Michael,” Danielle sighed, “You shouldn’t have spent so much money, I’m sorry.”
Michael chuckled and took the box from her.
“Look where l bought it from,” he grinned pointing to a logo in the bottom right hand corner. His finger was far too close to the blonde’s curvaceous hip for Danielle’s liking.
She tried hard to ignore the picture as she took the box from Michael and read aloud.
“Magical Lingerie. So?”
“Have you ever heard of them?” Michael asked.
“No, of course not Michael, l don’t know any lingerie brands, it isn’t my thing you know that.” she was beginning to sound whiney.
“No-ones heard of them!” Michael beamed, “They’re a secret designer outlet.”
Danielle sighed, why was Michael looking so pleased with himself, she hoped again that he hadn’t spent too much money on this ridiculous clothing. Then something occurred to her and she groaned.
“Oh no Michael, they haven’t got pads in them have they?” she felt ashamed and pulled the jumper even further away from her body to hide her modest chest, thinking of false boobs and fake bum pads.
Michael laughed, “Danielle, you know l think you’re gorgeous just the way you are, why would l do that? I love your figure.”
“I look like a boy.” Danielle sighed unconvinced of his sincerity. Who wouldn’t prefer the girl on the box? She had so much more flesh to get hold of.
“Ok that’s enough negativity.” said Michael. “This lingerie is really special. I bought it for you because it has special powers.”
“What?” Danielle smiled for the first time, just how gullible was her boyfriend? “Special powers? Don’t be silly Michael!”
“Trust me,” he said mysteriously, “I’ve seen the video proof, try them on.”
Danielle quickly pushed from her mind the idea of Michael watching hot girls parading around in their underwear in a promotional video and studied his face.
“Fine.” she sighed eventually and flounced off to the bathroom with the box under her arm.
She took the peephole bra and held it up before her, wrinkling her nose at the decadent materiel. There was a label attached to it:
‘Please be aware we accept no responsibility for the effects our magic materiel may have. This item is to be worn with extreme caution’.
“Well that is some pretentious marketing technique.” Danielle scoffed as she pulled off her oversize jumper.
To Danielle’s surprise the bra was a perfect fit. Her small nipples peeked through the little slits just as expected and her small swell of flesh rose temptingly above the lace.
It felt warm.
Feeling a little more optimistic, Danielle tried on the thong.
The intricate lacing was very flattering as it caressed her pussy before rising to a small butterfly V at the back.
Danielle looked over her shoulder, the tightness of the materiel between her bum cheeks made them swell provocatively like two small, round globes.
Well, this lingerie was certainly flattering; her small assets looked quite voluptuous thanks to clever cutting and soft elastic in all the right places.
Danielle stared almost disbelievingly at her reflection for quite a long time. Her body felt unusually warm and she began to feel a subtle tingling between her legs.
Michael knocked on the bathroom door.
Danielle continued to stare at her reflection.


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Monday, December 9, 2013

Fetish within Dominance and submission

After my recent radio show with the vivacious Cassandre Dayne (Click here to listen) about Domination and submission and everything else to do with it, it occurred to me that fetish is rarely discussed. 

Domination and submission is all to do with power play, power exchange, control, or loss of it as the case may be. I think it is when fetish comes to the fore, where most can be shocked beyond their comfort limits, and perhaps it is the focus on fetish which gives the lifestyle such bad connotations within the media.

So what is a fetish? The OED describes it as follows:-
'2 a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc an excessive and irrational devotion or commitment to a particular thing.

We all recognise shoe fetishes, rubber fetishes, leather fetishes - but there are also fetishes for hair(excess or absence of it for instance), eyes, breasts, bottoms and so on. All seem pretty harmless yes? Then there is the darker stuff. Asphyxiaphilia - breath play, electrotorture, golden showers, whipping, needle play, cutting, the list is endless, and it is this that the media highlights. With good reason (I know - you won't hear me saying *that* very often).

I have mentioned before the danger of embracing the 'playing' aspects of the lifestyle. Domination and submission is based on implicit trust, and yes fetish can be included in a session, but the danger of the particular fetish must be acknowledged. It is perhaps the danger and fear of the particular fetish which drives the sexual gratification. So how does the community ensure that such practices are safer?

Professionally run establishments have Dungeon Masters and those trained in watching out for danger signs, but how many others in the lisfestyle have professional monitoring during sessions? What is the answer? What can be done. I believe that awareness, open discussions, putting information out there that is easy to find so that everyone who desires to partake in activities can research fully before they embark on the experience.

Since I have started exploring and researching my writing, I have encountered so many who have asked me for such information, needing a few drinks for dutch courage before taking me to one side and starting the "erm, do you mind if I ask you..." conversation, nervously looking around in case someone heard their questions. Not just women either, men ask the same questions. There is a need for experiences to be shared for enjoyment and safety's sake, I wonder whether this is why I write my stories from a gentler aspect? I know that I do not enjoy severe pain, and it stands to reason I'm not the only person who thinks that way. This doesn't, however, and shouldn't, preclude me or anyone else from enjoying the world of Domination, submission and fetish.

The experience of a friend of mine highlighted the need for awareness. She explained to me how she had entered into a Domination and submission scene with a man whom she thought she trusted. She thought that it would be an enjoyable experience as they had spoken about how they wanted it to be, he was much more experienced and it was her first time. It became incredibly obvious to her straight away that things weren't as they should be but she didn't know how to say stop. He had convinced her he knew best, and, the whole experience scarred her considerably. She knew what to expect from the power exchange, but his fetishes were beyond what she was comfortable with, and she had no idea how to handle them other than to just go along with it. Education, support and confidence in being able to say no is what needs to be instilled. So many inexperienced submissives think they have to take what is dished out without a whimper, and it destroys what 'could' be an amazing experience. Further to this, Doms need to do their research too. They need to get to know their partners *before* partaking in any scene, however experienced they may actually be.

Safe, sane, consensual, is the most important thing that must be remembered, and it may be prudent to avoid any alcohol and most definitely drugs during play, and more than anything, always always double check that everything that happens is ok with all parties involved. Just because someone is willing to partake in a Dominant submissive relationship, does not necessarily mean that either party will automatically be happy to satisfy any fetish desired.