I Don't Have Balls...

Morning.

Once again, the subject has come up about women who write m/m. I’m not sure why this is such a big deal but people seem to be fascinated about women writing about gay males. I mean, we’re women and a lot of us date men or are married to them. And men aren’t all the same either. They can be very unemotional or wear their feelings on their sleeves. Some men are very affectionate while others can be cold.

While it’s true that men and women are different, the fact still remains that we’re human. Why can’t I write about another human just because I don’t have the genitalia? I feel good when falling in love and having sex just like men do. Men, gay or straight, have fears and or anxieties they must get over. A gay man is worried about being accepted. Well, so am I since I’m a black woman. Like a gay man who gets involved with a man who is different from himself, I worried about my husband’s parents liking me.

Those are a few examples of some things that will be the same but I’m not that naïve to know that gay men and women are a lot alike. My argument is human beings can write about other human beings no matter what the gender or genitalia. In other words, I may not have balls but I can write about them. Why? Because I choose to. I love writing about two people, man and woman, 2 men, 2 women, or multiples who find a common bond with one another. Romance is about connecting with people, overcoming obstacles, and building a long lasting relationship if all parties agree. Since I’ve experienced happiness with another person, why can’t I write about it?

I’m a woman and I’m not ashamed. I like writing about people in love and most of the time, it’s men. I take pride in my work, I support the community, and I’ll continue because I love what I do.

So even though I may not have balls, I’ll write m/m until I can’t write anymore. I won’t be deterred by people women or men, who say I can’t because I’m not a gay man myself.

I have the freedom to express myself though my writing and writing men in love is what I enjoy most of all.

Author Sharita Lira: In one word, crazy. Just crazy enough to have 3 4 different muses running around in her head, driving her to sheer exhaustion with new plot bunnies and complex characters.

In addition to being a computer geek and a metalhead, Sharita loves live music, reading, and perusing the net for sexy men to be her muses.  She’s also a founding member and contributor to the heavy metal ezine Fourteeng.net.

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What's Really Sexy?

Hiya everyone! Hope the new year is goin’ well for ya’ so far. It is for me! *snicker* But I’m just a muse so technically I don’t count. Or do I? Well, ask Shar about that one.

Anyways, what are we talkin’ about today? Sexy! What is the true definition of sexiness to you? I mean, I think it’s about time I do some smexy posts right? Yeah I know, I’m an author but hell, talkin’ about the backlist and books can get boring so let’s talk about my favorite thing other than writing, metal, and men! Sex or as I say in this post, sexiness!

What defines sexy to you? Pretty eyes, a taut and deliciously ripped body? Six pack abs are nice but when the man ain’t packin’ down below it kinda defeats the purpose, right? I mean, when we see a sexy man, we automatically assume he’s hung like a horse but unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Ahem, gettin’ back to what’s sexy! Do you like some stubble or none at all? How about tattoos and piercings? Um… well, I love those myself. What about the way a man dresses? Is there a particular way he wears his clothes or what he wears? Suits and ties, jeans and t-shirts, or my personal fave, nothing at all… *AHEM* Sorry. Yeah I love jeans and a plus from me if they wear them kind of tight around the buttocks. I like seeing my man’s booty to give it a tight squeeze. Those who wear them low to the crevice of your arse need not apply. I hate that look, it just looks sloppy but some women like that and find it appealing. *shakes head* Moving on!

 What about the ladies? What defines a sexy woman? I believe the same rules apply but I think men also like the way a woman carries herself. Do the guys always go for the lady who struts her stuff when she walks in the door or are they attracted to the shy and unassuming type? Perhaps, it’s the woman who doesn’t dress to impress. Maybe she looks like a sweet girl and he’d love to push her limits to see how innocent or naughty she truly is. Yeah, I know you men have thought about the naughty librarian and had a wet dream or two about her. *smirks*

The point with both sexes is we have different standards and tastes when it comes to be people we’re attracted to. What I find sexy, you might not and vice versa. Perhaps it’s not about the exterior at all. Are you in love with his or her personality, their intelligence? Perhaps it’s what that person does for a living, like a musician for instance. Not all the men in the metal world especially are pretty to look at but man can they bed a woman! I’ve heard Lemmy from Motorhead beds quite a few pretty women and is he sexy? Hells no! Yet he gets plenty of um, action!

So what is sexy? It really is how we as individuals define it. Whether it’s the physical parts, the intellect, or their personality, we can decide what truly attracts us to another person. I know what I like. I think I covered it on the above paragraphs. 

How about you? What do you define as sexy? 

As always, thanks for listening to me, the wicked muse!

BLMorticia is currently a published writer with Naughty Nights Press and Rebel Ink Press. She entertains her readers with hot and smexy sex, humor, and lots of swear words. She attempts to incorporate metal music or the military in most of her works. Nothin’ sexier than metalheads or military servicemen and women! She also writes a biweekly column on Blak Rayne Books and blogs on the First Thursday of the month at NNP Blog. For more info, please visit, Erotica With Snark