To Shave or Not to Shave

Greetings readers! This is another post by the wicked gal about facial hair. Hmm… Ya know, the head Shar, used to be a fan of men with no facial hair at all. I know it started with seeing the group Duran Duran and carried on from there, falling in love with men who didn’t want any stubble or fuzz on their face or otherwise. But now Shar is married to a man with plenty of that on his face and uh other places. *waggles eyebrows* Ahem, I digress. TMI. What was the change Shar?

Sharita interjects: Aren’t I allowed to change my mind?

Sure you are Shar, but I wonder about what some women say about men who don’t shave all the time. They keep it trim or not. Does a beard make a man look more manly?

I’ve noticed when we post pics on our FB page which has become the new place to share gorgeous pic of models, we’ll get comments saying, “Oh he’s not manly looking enough. Too pretty.” In most cases, those men have no hair anywhere but on their heads. 

Like this one, who I’m a big fan of. He looks the part of a rocker. *licks lips* He’d probably be considered too pretty or not manly enough for some women or gay men but not for me.

Over the years, men have become more concerned about their appearance. Just look at the models. From the overly androgynous Andrej Pejic to the hunk supermodel David Gandy, who just happens to sport a beard, the fashion world now cares just as much about its male models as it does their females. They have a certain look, some of them pretty faced, some not and the majority of them are clean faced, no body hair. What’s wrong with this? Nothing. It’s all good to me.

In my opinion, it depends on how you wear it. Does it look good on you? If you’re not shaving does it look un-kept? Hopefully no birds have made a nest there! *Random Homer Simpson reference* If you are shaving or waxing, *grins* does it work for you? Are you concerned how “femme” it makes you look? In some people’s eyes, men who shave or wax are more metrosexual and or female than their hairy counterparts. If this doesn’t bother you, do what you want! I don’t care either way to be honest. Men are hot, period. Beard or not, hairy or not, doesn’t matter to me. If it adds to your overall smexiness bring it on.

To me, it doesn’t make you more manly with a beard, or less without. How do you sport that look? Are you looking as if you just crawled out the trash? Hopefully not. Whatever makes you comfortable with yourself, it’s all good. I believe it’s almost like the debate about women and their weight. Not the same context but the same stupid stereotypes that people jump on. The fatter you are, you’re considered sloppy or unattractive. How do you carry that weight? And if you are skinny, I hope you’re not anorexic. That’s not healthy.

People need to get over their perceptions and realize beauty is more than skin deep. The personality is part of that overall appearance too. The beard is just a small part of visual appearance. You’re no less manly if you choose to wax and shave your body or facial hair and not more manly if you don’t.

What’s the end result? Are you happy with how you look? In the end, that’s the only opinion that matters!

So do what you want! Shave! Wax! Ooh and if you do, can I watch? *licks lips* Better yet, can I help ya. If you don’t, I’ll help you take care of that.

Men shaved or not are just sexy, period. 

BLMorticia is currently a published writer with Naughty Nights Press and Rebel Ink Press. She entertains her readers with hot and smexy sex, humor, and lots of swear words. She attempts to incorporate metal music or the military in most of her works. Nothin’ sexier than metalheads or military servicemen and women! She also writes a monthly column on Blak Rayne Books and blogs on the First Thursday of the month at NNP Blog. For more info, please visit, Erotica With Snark

What's Really Sexy?

Hiya everyone! Hope the new year is goin’ well for ya’ so far. It is for me! *snicker* But I’m just a muse so technically I don’t count. Or do I? Well, ask Shar about that one.

Anyways, what are we talkin’ about today? Sexy! What is the true definition of sexiness to you? I mean, I think it’s about time I do some smexy posts right? Yeah I know, I’m an author but hell, talkin’ about the backlist and books can get boring so let’s talk about my favorite thing other than writing, metal, and men! Sex or as I say in this post, sexiness!

What defines sexy to you? Pretty eyes, a taut and deliciously ripped body? Six pack abs are nice but when the man ain’t packin’ down below it kinda defeats the purpose, right? I mean, when we see a sexy man, we automatically assume he’s hung like a horse but unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Ahem, gettin’ back to what’s sexy! Do you like some stubble or none at all? How about tattoos and piercings? Um… well, I love those myself. What about the way a man dresses? Is there a particular way he wears his clothes or what he wears? Suits and ties, jeans and t-shirts, or my personal fave, nothing at all… *AHEM* Sorry. Yeah I love jeans and a plus from me if they wear them kind of tight around the buttocks. I like seeing my man’s booty to give it a tight squeeze. Those who wear them low to the crevice of your arse need not apply. I hate that look, it just looks sloppy but some women like that and find it appealing. *shakes head* Moving on!

 What about the ladies? What defines a sexy woman? I believe the same rules apply but I think men also like the way a woman carries herself. Do the guys always go for the lady who struts her stuff when she walks in the door or are they attracted to the shy and unassuming type? Perhaps, it’s the woman who doesn’t dress to impress. Maybe she looks like a sweet girl and he’d love to push her limits to see how innocent or naughty she truly is. Yeah, I know you men have thought about the naughty librarian and had a wet dream or two about her. *smirks*

The point with both sexes is we have different standards and tastes when it comes to be people we’re attracted to. What I find sexy, you might not and vice versa. Perhaps it’s not about the exterior at all. Are you in love with his or her personality, their intelligence? Perhaps it’s what that person does for a living, like a musician for instance. Not all the men in the metal world especially are pretty to look at but man can they bed a woman! I’ve heard Lemmy from Motorhead beds quite a few pretty women and is he sexy? Hells no! Yet he gets plenty of um, action!

So what is sexy? It really is how we as individuals define it. Whether it’s the physical parts, the intellect, or their personality, we can decide what truly attracts us to another person. I know what I like. I think I covered it on the above paragraphs. 

How about you? What do you define as sexy? 

As always, thanks for listening to me, the wicked muse!

BLMorticia is currently a published writer with Naughty Nights Press and Rebel Ink Press. She entertains her readers with hot and smexy sex, humor, and lots of swear words. She attempts to incorporate metal music or the military in most of her works. Nothin’ sexier than metalheads or military servicemen and women! She also writes a biweekly column on Blak Rayne Books and blogs on the First Thursday of the month at NNP Blog. For more info, please visit, Erotica With Snark