Today should be a good read as we have the self proclaimed Queen of Wickedly Erotic, Cassandre Dayne and the Master of all that is naughty, the irrepressible Benjamin Tiberius Russell.
So grab your drink of choice and make yourself comfortable as Cassandre and Benjamin discuss the sometime taboo topic of Oral Sex *wink*
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CHIT CHAT AND ALL THAT
Cassandre Dayne and Benjamin Russell
What’s not to love? Right? Well there is an art to oral sex for both a man and a woman. Benjamin and I are going to explore this sometimes difficult topic. Leave your inhibitions at the door.
*Fresh flowers placed artfully around the room - $100
Compilation of the Best Love Songs of the 80’s & 90 - $40
The lovely, sexy, innocent and unsuspecting Cassandre Dayne alone with me in my den of iniquity a.k.a. my media room – Fucking Priceless.*
Hi Cassandra, it’s so good to see you. Enter-enter, welcome to my humble abode. Please come in and have a seat. *Step right in said the spider to the fly* (This is Cassandre breaking in here because the handsome yet oh-so-bad boy toy Benjamin misspelled my name so I’m thinking perhaps thirty lashes with my flogger? What ladies – you’re thinking more? Okay…)
I am delighted that you accepted my invitation and agreed to join me here in my media room for our little chit-chat. Yes, this is the infamous Benjamin Russell media room you’ve heard so much about. As you can see, it is resplendent with movie posters of some of my all time favorite porn stars: Vanessa del Rio, John Holmes, Jenna Jameson and the incomparable Linda Lovelace. What can I say; my Muse sometimes needs visual stimulation too.
When I invited Casey-Lyne Johnson down here for our chit-chat, she could barely keep her eyes from falling out of her head. Another time, when Chrystian Marrero came over for the chit-chat he and I did together, one of my posters mysteriously turned up missing. Of course, I doubt I have to worry about either of those situations with you.
Now, before we get started, may I offer you something to drink - water, wine, a glass of my Jim Jones punch? It’s an old family recipe, most women seem to enjoy it’s soothing affect. Just water you say. Ok. *Fuck*
All-righty then, let’s get this party started. Hold on here Benjamin – you’ve never been forced to really deal with the wicked girl herself so I dare say you should be careful what you’re asking for – I do bite. I’ve told you that before… And this cat thought I was innocent – I’ll show him. (I’m laughing and thinking about doing such naughty things as I reach for the champagne)
What do you love about oral sex and what’s the best you’ve ever had?
Okay – what’s not to love? I think there’s nothing more pleasurable for me that to gaze up at my lover while I’m sucking him, licking and tasting. For me there’s something so incredible about showing him just how much I lust and crave his body by using my mouth, tongue and fingers to drive him just to the point of nirvana and drawing back and then heating him up again. Mmmm… Yummy. I love the scent of a man all the way around and I get a thrill out of the tangy taste of his cream. I thoroughly enjoy it. Now I love being licked but sadly I find so many men really can’t enjoy, don’t know how to lick and find it all a bit distasteful… Sighs.
Gawd, we’re starting right off with a tough question. Where do I start? Ok, I’m from the school that it’s better to give than to receive. Don’t get me wrong, I love to receive oral sex and I think it’s a mandatory part of foreplay, but I just love giving head, eating pussy, sucking… Oh, I’m sorry – I digress. I love the taste, the smell and most importantly, I love the sweet sounds of pleasure from my lover’s mouth when I lick that spot just right.
Oops, I almost missed the ‘best I ever had’ part of the question. That’s easy, the first time I ever had a woman swallow and not spit was the best for me. Her technique wasn’t the best, but she blew me away with her eagerness to please me. Even though at the last second I tried to warn her and pull out, she held on and wouldn’t let go until we had both finished. As “they” say, you always remember the first time.
Now that’s what I love to hear in a man Benjamin but my guess is the first time you started out licking a woman or a man (getting ahead of my self here) you probably were unsure of what to do and how hard to lick and taste. Right?
Cass, you’re right. The first time, I didn’t know exactly what to do, but I’m a fast learner and I paid attention. Fortunately, my first time was with an older woman who had no qualms about giving me the necessary instructions. She also gave me some advice that has served me well over the years. 1.) No two women are the same; each one is unique and beautiful. Listen to what her body tells you, even if she can’t find the words. 2.) On any given day, what worked for the same woman on Monday might not work for her on Friday. Women are a gift from the Universe, but her needs change. As a lover, go with the flow. If on Monday, she needs it soft and tender - then give her what she wants. If on Friday she wants it fast and hard – give her what she wants. It’s not about you - it’s about pleasing her. Muah!!@
And what don’t you love and why?
What don’t I like – I don’t like when a man or a woman for that matter in a sense chows down on you. This isn’t like eating some feast presented (well in a way it is but a sensuous one for goodness sake) and a lot of people think being harsh is the way to go. It’s not. You use a combination of tongue and fingers and your mouth to suck and lick and that’s what drives a woman crazy. I also think so many who lick a woman truly don’t get we have several sensitive areas. Take your time and enjoy – this is about torturing her into submission in my book.
I don’t like spitters, please if you’re going to do it, do it right. I also have a serious issue with someone who won’t kiss me after I’ve given them oral sex. Are you kidding me, if you don’t like the taste of you on my lips, then why was I down there?
I love the taste. I love the feeling in the back of my throat and the majority of the time I love when a man in particular takes control and refuses to allow me to give up his special cream but don’t you think Benjamin that sometimes men in particular tend to forget when they cum we’re down there and the force doesn’t give them time to breathe?
Just like a man NOT to answer me, eh ladies?
Do you think there’s an art to performing oral sex?
Absolutely there’s an art. From the way I touch a man to start – it doesn’t begin with his cock. I enjoy all aspects of touching the caressing his entire body to get him relaxed and in the mood. I love kissing and licking all the way down the length of his body, allowing my hot breath to skate across his skin. I want him to the point he wants to beg me to suck him and then I’ll start by being very gentle. I also think most women don’t understand that men enjoy having their balls sucked – BUT very carefully. You’re not just using your mouth ladies – tongue, teeth and fingers do come into play. For a man or woman licking another woman – as I’ve said before you have to really listen to her. She’s going to moan one way or another and if she tried to stop you, listen to what she’s saying.
Absolutely, the art is to listen to your lover. He or she may not say it in so many words, but their body will tell you if you’re doing it right. If their body is stiff and unresponsive, then you probably need to ask how they want/need it done. The problem with a man asking a woman this question is sometimes women expect us men to just know, as if we should know their bodies as well as they do. Nope, it really doesn’t work that way. An experienced man, who truly enjoys giving oral sex, will have a damn good idea how to please, but confirmation never hurts.
I completely agree Benjamin. For some people this is still a bit of a taboo topic and you really have to communicate with each other or it’s not going to be enjoyable for either one of you. Let me ask you a question – don’t you think sometimes delicious oral sex is better than the act of copulation itself?
Cass I have lost count of how many times we never got to the copulation part of the evening because I didn’t want to stop licking. For me, the ideal moment for insertion is when she is still having aftershocks from my oral ministration. At that singular moment, her sex is so hot and tight that mere penetration of the head can induce another orgasm.
Why do you think the topic continues to be difficult for people to talk about?
Believe it or not in some states in America it’s still an illegal act. Our parents used to call it dirty. I think sometimes the stigma is still attached. I for one had a mother who hated all things sexual and instead of turning me off I explored – and found out I love everything about sex period and especially oral sex. But…you have to be comfortable with your partner all the way around.
Damn, another tough question. Truthfully, even in 2012 sex in general is a tough topic for people to talk about, not just oral sex. For a variety of reasons, it has been drummed into our psyches that the only normal sex is the missionary position - anything else is deviant. I honestly don’t know why people can’t seem to talk about it other than fear their partners or family will think they’re weird or perverted.
What’s the wildest location you’ve ever given or received?
Hehe – what place haven’t I? Okay – telling a story here but once I worked in a high society restaurant where dinners were usually $200 a couple. There was one hot waiter who thought way too much of himself and I was a bit of a wench back then (no laughing kids) and a girlfriend and I decided to kick his ass. So… I enticed him into the storage closet of the restaurant and I gave him what he said later was the best blowjob of his life. I won’t tell you what happened with my girlfriend and I met him at a house he was staying at all dolled up in leather. Let’s just say the freak out made us giggle for years.
Driving down the highway doing ninety miles an hour with Al Green blasting through the stereo singing “Love and Happiness”. This was with my tutor and she had been teasing me for almost 200 miles, we were driving back to Chicago from the Big Easy. I thought I’d blown out a tire, but it was actually me almost blowing the top of her head off. I had to pull over to the side of the road and return the favor before we could continue.
I’ll throw in I was doing a bit on that on the highway giving of course and the trucker actually followed us to a rest stop and offered something very…interesting.
What’s the hottest place you could think of as a fantasy location to have a tasty treat?
In the back of a taxi cab or on a subway. There are many other places I have enjoyed including water but I think there’s something so damn HOT about the thought of being caught. Then again there was this fantasy about a Ferris wheel too. Whew. Don’t you?
Yep, I’m with you on the fear factor as being at the heart of my fantasy location. I’ve got this fantasy of receiving oral sex while riding up in one of those elevators with the glass walls. It would be so cool to look down on the world and into her eyes at the same time when I give her my reward for a labor of love well done.
Now something a little controversial – we like to stir the pot…
Yes on both counts and I can’t deny I loved it. I’m very sexual and enjoy the aspect of trying new things sexually. A woman handles the act on another woman totally differently. The act is softer and more gentle a lot of the time because a woman knows how it feels. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Now… I have to say I love giving very much to men and women and again – it’s all about passion.
Duh – Hell yes to both questions. How do you spell ménage = MFM. What was interesting to me, is that the woman in this three-some seemed to get off as much by watching him and I, as she did when we both worked on her. Same sex-sex is different, but enjoyable. I’d do it again in a heartbeat.
How kinky would you go in this area?
Hmmm – I have had more than two men at a time and if and I say a HUGE if all things were safe I’d love to have a gaggle of men to tease and taste.
Cass, I think you’re earning reward points for the tough questions. How kinky am I in this area. Remember what I said about not liking it when the other person won’t kiss me after I’ve performed oral sex? Well, in my MFM ménage, I kissed her ‘after’ she had finished him off with her mouth. Does that count as kinky?
That counts as delicious in my book – or in my books LOL. Oral sex I believe is one of the most delicious things in sex and my darling Benjamin agrees. What about you?
I get to finish the lovely party here by saying don’t be afraid to try – there’s nothing quite like kicking up the heat and doing something wicked – now imagine a mysterious stranger at your beckon call… Are you letting your mind go wild?
Thanks so much from both of us for stopping by!
Phew, now was that hot or what?
Thank you Cassandre and Benjamin for making our first post so wickedly sexy and desirable.
Next week we have Kim Faulks and Eden Connor chatting about why they write the sub-genre of erotica that they do.
See you next week darling ones *kisses*